Cues of Sexual Desire Test

Fill out this short survey and learn how you interpret sexual desire!

This survey is anonymous and confidential (see our privacy statement) and should take approximately 8 minutes to complete. The questionnaire has approximately 12 questions that seek to understand your experience of sexual desire. Feel free to check it out, you can withdraw at any time. If you have any questions about or comments please contact Dr. Zebroff at info@artofconnection.org.

* By completing the survey you are agreeing to participate in furthering our understanding of human sexuality.

1. Email: (Your email address is not required, but handy if you want your results emailed to you) This question requires a valid email address.

2. My gender is: *This question is required.

Please enter an 'other' value for this selection.

3. My sexual orientation is:

Please enter an 'other' value for this selection.

5. My relationship status is:

Please enter an 'other' value for this selection.

I have been in my relationship for:

I would rate the general satisfaction of my relationship as:

6. When was the last time you felt 'sexual desire' to masturbate/fantasize?

Please enter an 'other' value for this selection.

7. When was the last time you felt 'sexual desire' to be with a partner? (whether one was available or not)

Please enter an 'other' value for this selection.

8. Was your most recent/current lover a new partner or a long-term partner?

9. I know I am feeling sexual desire when ....
In your own words, describe the first signs (sensations, thoughts or yearnings) that let you know you are experiencing sexual desire. This feeling does not mean you necessarily want to act on the desire, just that you feel sexual. Write as much as you like.

What clues in your body let you know you are feeling sexual desire?
Think back to the last time you felt sexual desire (either on your own OR with a partner), what were the first signs that you were feeling sexual desire: *This question is required.It does not necessarily mean that you wanted to act on the desire, only that you felt sexual.

Space Cell	Not at all	Slightly	Moderately	Considerably	Very strongly
Sensitivity or tenderness of breasts or nipples	Sensitivity or tenderness of breasts or nipples: Not at all	Sensitivity or tenderness of breasts or nipples: Slightly	Sensitivity or tenderness of breasts or nipples: Moderately	Sensitivity or tenderness of breasts or nipples: Considerably	Sensitivity or tenderness of breasts or nipples: Very strongly
Shivering or quivering sensation	Shivering or quivering sensation: Not at all	Shivering or quivering sensation: Slightly	Shivering or quivering sensation: Moderately	Shivering or quivering sensation: Considerably	Shivering or quivering sensation: Very strongly
Swelling or fullness of genitals or breasts	Swelling or fullness of genitals or breasts: Not at all	Swelling or fullness of genitals or breasts: Slightly	Swelling or fullness of genitals or breasts: Moderately	Swelling or fullness of genitals or breasts: Considerably	Swelling or fullness of genitals or breasts: Very strongly
Clenching or tightness in thighs	Clenching or tightness in thighs: Not at all	Clenching or tightness in thighs: Slightly	Clenching or tightness in thighs: Moderately	Clenching or tightness in thighs: Considerably	Clenching or tightness in thighs: Very strongly
Throbbing or pulsing in genitals	Throbbing or pulsing in genitals: Not at all	Throbbing or pulsing in genitals: Slightly	Throbbing or pulsing in genitals: Moderately	Throbbing or pulsing in genitals: Considerably	Throbbing or pulsing in genitals: Very strongly
Quickening heart beat	Quickening heart beat: Not at all	Quickening heart beat: Slightly	Quickening heart beat: Moderately	Quickening heart beat: Considerably	Quickening heart beat: Very strongly
Feeling flushed or hot	Feeling flushed or hot: Not at all	Feeling flushed or hot: Slightly	Feeling flushed or hot: Moderately	Feeling flushed or hot: Considerably	Feeling flushed or hot: Very strongly
Tension or tightness in my pelvis/genitals	Tension or tightness in my pelvis/genitals: Not at all	Tension or tightness in my pelvis/genitals: Slightly	Tension or tightness in my pelvis/genitals: Moderately	Tension or tightness in my pelvis/genitals: Considerably	Tension or tightness in my pelvis/genitals: Very strongly
Tingling all over	Tingling all over: Not at all	Tingling all over: Slightly	Tingling all over: Moderately	Tingling all over: Considerably	Tingling all over: Very strongly
Faster or shallow breathing	Faster or shallow breathing: Not at all	Faster or shallow breathing: Slightly	Faster or shallow breathing: Moderately	Faster or shallow breathing: Considerably	Faster or shallow breathing: Very strongly
Aching or heavy sensation in vagina	Aching or heavy sensation in vagina: Not at all	Aching or heavy sensation in vagina: Slightly	Aching or heavy sensation in vagina: Moderately	Aching or heavy sensation in vagina: Considerably	Aching or heavy sensation in vagina: Very strongly
Warmth or 'heat' in genitals	Warmth or 'heat' in genitals: Not at all	Warmth or 'heat' in genitals: Slightly	Warmth or 'heat' in genitals: Moderately	Warmth or 'heat' in genitals: Considerably	Warmth or 'heat' in genitals: Very strongly
Moistness or wetness	Moistness or wetness: Not at all	Moistness or wetness: Slightly	Moistness or wetness: Moderately	Moistness or wetness: Considerably	Moistness or wetness: Very strongly
"Need to pee" sensation	"Need to pee" sensation: Not at all	"Need to pee" sensation: Slightly	"Need to pee" sensation: Moderately	"Need to pee" sensation: Considerably	"Need to pee" sensation: Very strongly

What clues in your body let you know you are feeling sexual desire?
Think back to the last time you felt sexual desire (either on your own OR with a partner), what were the first signs that you were feeling sexual desire:
*This question is required.It does not necessarily mean that you wanted to act on the desire, only that you felt sexual.
(Men)

Space Cell	Not at all	Slightly	Moderately	Considerably	Very strongly
Tingling all over	Tingling all over: Not at all	Tingling all over: Slightly	Tingling all over: Moderately	Tingling all over: Considerably	Tingling all over: Very strongly
Quickening heart beat	Quickening heart beat: Not at all	Quickening heart beat: Slightly	Quickening heart beat: Moderately	Quickening heart beat: Considerably	Quickening heart beat: Very strongly
Throbbing or pulsing in genitals	Throbbing or pulsing in genitals: Not at all	Throbbing or pulsing in genitals: Slightly	Throbbing or pulsing in genitals: Moderately	Throbbing or pulsing in genitals: Considerably	Throbbing or pulsing in genitals: Very strongly
Sensitivity or tenderness of nipples	Sensitivity or tenderness of nipples: Not at all	Sensitivity or tenderness of nipples: Slightly	Sensitivity or tenderness of nipples: Moderately	Sensitivity or tenderness of nipples: Considerably	Sensitivity or tenderness of nipples: Very strongly
Tension or tightness in my pelvis / genitals	Tension or tightness in my pelvis / genitals: Not at all	Tension or tightness in my pelvis / genitals: Slightly	Tension or tightness in my pelvis / genitals: Moderately	Tension or tightness in my pelvis / genitals: Considerably	Tension or tightness in my pelvis / genitals: Very strongly
Warmth or 'heat' in genitals	Warmth or 'heat' in genitals: Not at all	Warmth or 'heat' in genitals: Slightly	Warmth or 'heat' in genitals: Moderately	Warmth or 'heat' in genitals: Considerably	Warmth or 'heat' in genitals: Very strongly
Sensation of sensitivity or aching in the testicles	Sensation of sensitivity or aching in the testicles: Not at all	Sensation of sensitivity or aching in the testicles: Slightly	Sensation of sensitivity or aching in the testicles: Moderately	Sensation of sensitivity or aching in the testicles: Considerably	Sensation of sensitivity or aching in the testicles: Very strongly
Shivering or quivering sensation	Shivering or quivering sensation: Not at all	Shivering or quivering sensation: Slightly	Shivering or quivering sensation: Moderately	Shivering or quivering sensation: Considerably	Shivering or quivering sensation: Very strongly
Faster or shallow breathing	Faster or shallow breathing: Not at all	Faster or shallow breathing: Slightly	Faster or shallow breathing: Moderately	Faster or shallow breathing: Considerably	Faster or shallow breathing: Very strongly
Feeling flushed or hot	Feeling flushed or hot: Not at all	Feeling flushed or hot: Slightly	Feeling flushed or hot: Moderately	Feeling flushed or hot: Considerably	Feeling flushed or hot: Very strongly
Awareness of my erection / hardness	Awareness of my erection / hardness: Not at all	Awareness of my erection / hardness: Slightly	Awareness of my erection / hardness: Moderately	Awareness of my erection / hardness: Considerably	Awareness of my erection / hardness: Very strongly

10. What emotional FEELINGS let you know you are experiencing sexual desire?
Think back to the last time you felt sexual desire (either on your own OR with a partner), what were the first signs that you were feeling sexual desire: *This question is required.This feeling did not necessarily mean that you wanted to act on the desire, just that you feel sexual.

Space Cell	Not at all	Slightly	Moderately	Considerably	Very stronly
Feeling present	Feeling present: Not at all	Feeling present: Slightly	Feeling present: Moderately	Feeling present: Considerably	Feeling present: Very stronly
Feeling attractive or sexy	Feeling attractive or sexy: Not at all	Feeling attractive or sexy: Slightly	Feeling attractive or sexy: Moderately	Feeling attractive or sexy: Considerably	Feeling attractive or sexy: Very stronly
Feeling anxious	Feeling anxious: Not at all	Feeling anxious: Slightly	Feeling anxious: Moderately	Feeling anxious: Considerably	Feeling anxious: Very stronly
Feeling flustered or jittery	Feeling flustered or jittery: Not at all	Feeling flustered or jittery: Slightly	Feeling flustered or jittery: Moderately	Feeling flustered or jittery: Considerably	Feeling flustered or jittery: Very stronly
Feeling strong or powerful	Feeling strong or powerful: Not at all	Feeling strong or powerful: Slightly	Feeling strong or powerful: Moderately	Feeling strong or powerful: Considerably	Feeling strong or powerful: Very stronly
Feeling playful	Feeling playful: Not at all	Feeling playful: Slightly	Feeling playful: Moderately	Feeling playful: Considerably	Feeling playful: Very stronly
Feeling alluring or seductive	Feeling alluring or seductive: Not at all	Feeling alluring or seductive: Slightly	Feeling alluring or seductive: Moderately	Feeling alluring or seductive: Considerably	Feeling alluring or seductive: Very stronly
Feeling frustrated	Feeling frustrated: Not at all	Feeling frustrated: Slightly	Feeling frustrated: Moderately	Feeling frustrated: Considerably	Feeling frustrated: Very stronly
Feeling an openness or vulnerability	Feeling an openness or vulnerability: Not at all	Feeling an openness or vulnerability: Slightly	Feeling an openness or vulnerability: Moderately	Feeling an openness or vulnerability: Considerably	Feeling an openness or vulnerability: Very stronly
Feeling a tension or urgency	Feeling a tension or urgency: Not at all	Feeling a tension or urgency: Slightly	Feeling a tension or urgency: Moderately	Feeling a tension or urgency: Considerably	Feeling a tension or urgency: Very stronly
Feeling connected	Feeling connected: Not at all	Feeling connected: Slightly	Feeling connected: Moderately	Feeling connected: Considerably	Feeling connected: Very stronly
Feeling happy or good	Feeling happy or good: Not at all	Feeling happy or good: Slightly	Feeling happy or good: Moderately	Feeling happy or good: Considerably	Feeling happy or good: Very stronly
Feeling anticipation or wanting	Feeling anticipation or wanting: Not at all	Feeling anticipation or wanting: Slightly	Feeling anticipation or wanting: Moderately	Feeling anticipation or wanting: Considerably	Feeling anticipation or wanting: Very stronly
Feeling focused	Feeling focused: Not at all	Feeling focused: Slightly	Feeling focused: Moderately	Feeling focused: Considerably	Feeling focused: Very stronly
Feeling relaxed or calm	Feeling relaxed or calm: Not at all	Feeling relaxed or calm: Slightly	Feeling relaxed or calm: Moderately	Feeling relaxed or calm: Considerably	Feeling relaxed or calm: Very stronly

11. What YEARNINGS do you have with sexual desire?
Think back to the last time you felt sexual desire (either on your own OR with a partner), what were the first signs that you were feeling sexual desire: *This question is required.This feeling did not necessarily mean that you wanted to act on the desire, just that you feel sexual.

Space Cell	Not at all	Slightly	Moderately	Considerably	Very strong
Yearning for touch (genitals)	Yearning for touch (genitals): Not at all	Yearning for touch (genitals): Slightly	Yearning for touch (genitals): Moderately	Yearning for touch (genitals): Considerably	Yearning for touch (genitals): Very strong
Yearning to DO a particular genital act	Yearning to DO a particular genital act: Not at all	Yearning to DO a particular genital act: Slightly	Yearning to DO a particular genital act: Moderately	Yearning to DO a particular genital act: Considerably	Yearning to DO a particular genital act: Very strong
Yearning to be desired	Yearning to be desired: Not at all	Yearning to be desired: Slightly	Yearning to be desired: Moderately	Yearning to be desired: Considerably	Yearning to be desired: Very strong
Yearning to grind or rub against	Yearning to grind or rub against: Not at all	Yearning to grind or rub against: Slightly	Yearning to grind or rub against: Moderately	Yearning to grind or rub against: Considerably	Yearning to grind or rub against: Very strong
Yearning to be loved	Yearning to be loved: Not at all	Yearning to be loved: Slightly	Yearning to be loved: Moderately	Yearning to be loved: Considerably	Yearning to be loved: Very strong
Yearning for intimacy	Yearning for intimacy: Not at all	Yearning for intimacy: Slightly	Yearning for intimacy: Moderately	Yearning for intimacy: Considerably	Yearning for intimacy: Very strong
Yearning to think sexual thoughts or fantasize	Yearning to think sexual thoughts or fantasize: Not at all	Yearning to think sexual thoughts or fantasize: Slightly	Yearning to think sexual thoughts or fantasize: Moderately	Yearning to think sexual thoughts or fantasize: Considerably	Yearning to think sexual thoughts or fantasize: Very strong
Yearning to penetrate / be penetrated	Yearning to penetrate / be penetrated: Not at all	Yearning to penetrate / be penetrated: Slightly	Yearning to penetrate / be penetrated: Moderately	Yearning to penetrate / be penetrated: Considerably	Yearning to penetrate / be penetrated: Very strong
Yearning to be held or hold someone	Yearning to be held or hold someone: Not at all	Yearning to be held or hold someone: Slightly	Yearning to be held or hold someone: Moderately	Yearning to be held or hold someone: Considerably	Yearning to be held or hold someone: Very strong
Yearning for touch (overall skin)	Yearning for touch (overall skin): Not at all	Yearning for touch (overall skin): Slightly	Yearning for touch (overall skin): Moderately	Yearning for touch (overall skin): Considerably	Yearning for touch (overall skin): Very strong
Yearning to put my body against another	Yearning to put my body against another: Not at all	Yearning to put my body against another: Slightly	Yearning to put my body against another: Moderately	Yearning to put my body against another: Considerably	Yearning to put my body against another: Very strong
Yearning to talk	Yearning to talk: Not at all	Yearning to talk: Slightly	Yearning to talk: Moderately	Yearning to talk: Considerably	Yearning to talk: Very strong
Yearning to merge or be close (with another)	Yearning to merge or be close (with another): Not at all	Yearning to merge or be close (with another): Slightly	Yearning to merge or be close (with another): Moderately	Yearning to merge or be close (with another): Considerably	Yearning to merge or be close (with another): Very strong
Yearn to moan or make noise	Yearn to moan or make noise: Not at all	Yearn to moan or make noise: Slightly	Yearn to moan or make noise: Moderately	Yearn to moan or make noise: Considerably	Yearn to moan or make noise: Very strong
Yearning to grab or push	Yearning to grab or push: Not at all	Yearning to grab or push: Slightly	Yearning to grab or push: Moderately	Yearning to grab or push: Considerably	Yearning to grab or push: Very strong
Yearning to please partner	Yearning to please partner: Not at all	Yearning to please partner: Slightly	Yearning to please partner: Moderately	Yearning to please partner: Considerably	Yearning to please partner: Very strong
Yearning to orgasm or release	Yearning to orgasm or release: Not at all	Yearning to orgasm or release: Slightly	Yearning to orgasm or release: Moderately	Yearning to orgasm or release: Considerably	Yearning to orgasm or release: Very strong
Yearning for weight on me	Yearning for weight on me: Not at all	Yearning for weight on me: Slightly	Yearning for weight on me: Moderately	Yearning for weight on me: Considerably	Yearning for weight on me: Very strong
Yearning to masturbate	Yearning to masturbate: Not at all	Yearning to masturbate: Slightly	Yearning to masturbate: Moderately	Yearning to masturbate: Considerably	Yearning to masturbate: Very strong
Yearning to be filled or fill	Yearning to be filled or fill: Not at all	Yearning to be filled or fill: Slightly	Yearning to be filled or fill: Moderately	Yearning to be filled or fill: Considerably	Yearning to be filled or fill: Very strong
Yearning to kiss someone	Yearning to kiss someone: Not at all	Yearning to kiss someone: Slightly	Yearning to kiss someone: Moderately	Yearning to kiss someone: Considerably	Yearning to kiss someone: Very strong

12. Is the 'sexual desire' you feel when you want sex with a partner the same or different from the sexual desire you feel when you want to masturbate/fantasize on your own?

Please enter an 'other' value for this selection.

13. What does sexual desire look most like to you? Please select one of the following images.

14. I feel the most sexual desire after: