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Sexual Initiation Scale of Arousal

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Fill out this short survey and receive your Sexual Initiation Style(s) results immediately!

This survey is anonymous and confidential (see our privacy statement) and should take approximately 8 -12 minutes to complete. The questionnaire has 21 questions that cover your sexual initiation preferences and interests. Feel free to check it out, knowing that at any point you can discontinue at any time without consequence. If you have any questions about or comments please contact Dr. Zebroff at info@artofconnection.org. 

* By completing the survey you are agreeing to participate in furthering our understanding of human sexuality.
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2. My gender is: *This question is required.
3. My sexual orientation is:
5. My relationship status is: *This question is required.
6. I would rate the general satisfaction of my relationship as:
6. I have been in my relationship for:
6. Overall, how satisfactory or unsatisfactory is your present sex life?
7. Compared to your current sexual partner, how would you rate your sexual desire?
(0 = Much less desire  --- 8= Much more desire)
7. In your current relationship, who initiates sex most often?
The activity you do to signal you want to have sex, the location, the mood, who starts,etc.)
7. The way(s) my partner currently initiates sex is:
7. How would you prefer your partner approach you for sex? I get most turned-on if my partner: *This question is required.Think to how you start getting aroused --- transitioning from your day-to-day reality toward your erotic-reality. How would you like your partner to approach you.
Space Cell Very sexySomewhat sexyNot very sexyA turn-off
Strokes my chest/breasts or plays with my nipples (breasts)
Sits (or lies) closer to me than usual
Tells me how much he/she loves me
Does something sweet or thoughtful
Sets up a room with sensual ambiance
Shows me or tells me how aroused he/she is
Touches my back or buttocks
Rubs or presses themselves against me (without saying anything)
Nibbles on or plays with my ear
'Takes charge' of the situation
Teases me by making me wait (anticipate)
Is rough or forceful
Tells me the things he/she wants to do to me
Teases me with seductive language
Gets turned-on by what I'm wearing (or not wearing)
Makes prolonged eye-contact with me
Grabs me (seductively or playfully)
Surprises me, or is spontaneous
Focuses ALL of their attention on me
Gives me gentle kisses
Starts slow (and builds up in pace or intensity)
Gives me cuddles (non-sexual hugs or affection)
Engages in an emotional or romantic conversation
'Tells' me directly that they want to have sex
Sends me a sexy message
Caresses all parts of my body (including non-sexual parts)
Comes up to me from behind
Talks dirty to me
Is humorous or playful
'Asks' me what they should do to me
Undresses me
Mentally stimulates me
Is urgent and passionate
Pushes me against a wall or bed
Gives me deep (tongue), passionate kisses
Wears (or doesn't wear) certain articles of clothing
Kisses or caresses my neck
Tells me how sexy I am or how much they desire me
Gives me a massage
Touches or rubs my genitals
Suggests we take a "nap" together
9. For the most part, what is the pace (or intensity) you prefer to get you interested in having sex?
10. Overall, how obvious (overt) do you want your partner to be when they initiate sex with you? *This question is required.
11. What is your favorite type of kissing to get you interested in having sex?
 Choose your 1-2 favorite ways:
12. Over the last year, how often do you have difficulty getting enough lubrication (women) or maintaining an erection (men) before or during sex?
13. Over the last year, how often have you had difficulty reaching orgasm (WITH a partner present)?
The circumstances, environment or actions (particular touch, word, kiss, etc) that you prefer to get you in the mood to have sex.
15. Do you know how your partner prefers to be approached for sex -- their sexual initiation style?
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