From Gretchen Rubin: Hello! I created the Four Tendencies framework during my research into habits for my book, Better Than Before.
What’s the secret to making or breaking a habit? To change our habits, we first have to figure out ourselves.
When we try to form a new habit, we’re setting an expectation for ourselves. Therefore, to change our habits, it’s crucial to understand how we respond to expectations.
We all face outer expectations (meet deadlines, observe traffic regulations) and inner expectations (stop napping, give up sugar).
I’ve devised the “Four Tendencies” framework to describe how a person responds to expectations: as Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, or Rebel. If you’d like to figure out your Tendency, take this quiz.
The quiz poses questions meant to identify your Tendency and to cover some standard demographic information; it takes about ten minutes to complete. Answers are confidential and coordinated by a third-party research firm.
Consider the following scenarios. Obviously, you might not find yourself in these situations, and you might not react exactly as suggested; choose the answer that sounds like the kind of thing you'd most likely say, do, or think.