AROUSAL TYPE QUESTIONNAIRE

2. My gender is:

• Female
• Male
• Other - Please explain (Required) Please enter an 'other' value for this selection.

3. My sexual orientation is:

• Straight
• Gay
• Lesbian
• Bisexual
• Other - Please explain Please enter an 'other' value for this selection.

5. My relationship status is:

• Single
• In a relationship - not living together
• In a relationship - living together
• In a non-traditional relationship
• Other - Please explain Please enter an 'other' value for this selection.

6. I have been in my relationship for:

• Less than 6 months
• 6 months - 1.5 years
• 1.5 - 3 years
• 4 - 6 years

• 7 - 9 years
• 10 - 12 years
• 13 - 15 years
• more than 15 years

6. I would rate the general satisfaction of my relationship as:

• Extremely satisfying
• More than satisfying
• Satisfying
• Less than satisfying
• Extremely unsatisfying

6. The race or ethnicity I identify with is:

• Asian
• South Asian
• Black/African
• White/European

• Hispanic/Latino
• Indigenous or Native Indian
• Prefer not to answer
• Other - Write In Please enter an 'other' value for this selection.

7. The way I feel "close to" or "heard by" a lover is when:(When I share about my inner personal experience)

• the other person listens intently, without interrupting.
• the other person asks engaging questions, to show interest.
• the other person physically connects with me with a hug or a touch.
• the other person lets me know they have been listening with playful banter or teasing.
• the other person shares examples from their own life to demonstrate a common experience.

8. In preparing for my ideal sexual encounter, the thing that would most likely move me into an erotic mindset  (from my everyday mindset) would be: *This question is required.Sorry, only one choice! (Tip: Think about a peak sexual experience where you were able to feel the most turned-on)

• dressing in my favorite clothes and/or preparing my body to look HOT.
• preparing the room for my lover with an ambiance (candles, music, etc.) we will enjoy.
• thinking about or fantasizing about a favorite taboo, new or intense sex act/role.
• getting into a space/time where I can avoid distractions and focus on primal pleasures.

9. Based on everything you know about your own sexuality, choose one of the following actions your lover could do to get you turned on and in the mood for sex.
  *This question is required.Sorry, only one! (Hint: Choose the one that is most ideal to get you aroused)

• kiss my neck or caress all parts of my body (not just sexual bits)
• engage in a romantic conversation, showing genuine interest in me as a person
• undress me or undress for me
• push me roughly against a wall to show they are "in charge"
• talk dirty to me
• send me a sexy pic (or ask me to send one)
• sidle up to me, physically getting closer
• engage me in planning a sexual event or scene
• clear their schedule to dedicate quality time together

10. Imagine you are having sex with a lover. To feel fully engaged (turned-on) during sex, I would turn my attention to: *This question is required.

• imaging a favorite new or taboo sex act/role
• focusing on how much we love/care for one another and how much we are connecting
• contemplating myself in the nude or imagining my partner thinks I am hot
• focusing on what the sensations feel like in my body
• engaging in thoughts of "letting go" and being controlled
• engaging in thoughts of "taking charge" and being dominant

11. Imagine you are having sex with a lover.  To feel engaged (turned-on) during sex, I would want to include more: *This question is required.

• caring, hugging or cuddling
• posing or admiring
• watching, seeing or viewing
• touching, grabbing, scratching or biting
• roughness, controlling or being controlled

12. Overall, to feel engaged (turned-on) during sex, I would want to be encouraged to: *This question is required.

• to take more sexual risks
• to remove any outside distractions that are bothering me
• to slow down or move more gradually
• to be more bold and seductive
• to take charge
• to surrender

13. Choose the top fantasy(s) that would be the biggest turn on to you. *This question is required.(Choose 2 answers. If you do not find exactly your fantasy, please choose the closest to your experience.)

• I am an innocent person pursued by a dominant lover who overpowers me and "takes" me.
• I am a strong, forceful person, pursuing an innocent or unsuspecting partner.
• I am dressed in an alluring way, that my lover finds me so desirable they have to have me.
• I am sitting back while my partner is showing off their gorgeous body to me.
• I expose myself by showing off some part of my body to see my lover's "hot" reaction.
• My lover and I gaze deep into one another until we are completely merged as one.
• My lover opens themselves up to me and has a deep sexual connection.
• I am in a luxurious setting, surrounded by the finest goods.
• I am on a sexual adventure, planning and acting out my favorite, dirtiest sexual acts.
• I am revelling in blissful scents, smells and raw skin-on-skin contact.
• I dive into spinning whirlpools of sublime hedonistic pleasure.
• I am trying a favorite taboo or intense new sex act/role I have thought about.
• I do not fantasize.

14. When it comes to how I relate to others:(please mark which of the following you agree with)

Space Cell	Never	Rarely	Sometimes	Often	Always
I want to merge completely with another person	I want to merge completely with another person: Never	I want to merge completely with another person: Rarely	I want to merge completely with another person: Sometimes	I want to merge completely with another person: Often	I want to merge completely with another person: Always
I find it relatively easy to get close to others	I find it relatively easy to get close to others: Never	I find it relatively easy to get close to others: Rarely	I find it relatively easy to get close to others: Sometimes	I find it relatively easy to get close to others: Often	I find it relatively easy to get close to others: Always
Often, love partners want me to be more intimate than I feel comfortable being	Often, love partners want me to be more intimate than I feel comfortable being: Never	Often, love partners want me to be more intimate than I feel comfortable being: Rarely	Often, love partners want me to be more intimate than I feel comfortable being: Sometimes	Often, love partners want me to be more intimate than I feel comfortable being: Often	Often, love partners want me to be more intimate than I feel comfortable being: Always
I find that I am “in tune” with other people’s moods	I find that I am “in tune” with other people’s moods: Never	I find that I am “in tune” with other people’s moods: Rarely	I find that I am “in tune” with other people’s moods: Sometimes	I find that I am “in tune” with other people’s moods: Often	I find that I am “in tune” with other people’s moods: Always
Talking with my partner about sex makes me feel uncomfortable	Talking with my partner about sex makes me feel uncomfortable: Never	Talking with my partner about sex makes me feel uncomfortable: Rarely	Talking with my partner about sex makes me feel uncomfortable: Sometimes	Talking with my partner about sex makes me feel uncomfortable: Often	Talking with my partner about sex makes me feel uncomfortable: Always
I value being playful	I value being playful: Never	I value being playful: Rarely	I value being playful: Sometimes	I value being playful: Often	I value being playful: Always
It is important to know how my partner is feeling about me	It is important to know how my partner is feeling about me: Never	It is important to know how my partner is feeling about me: Rarely	It is important to know how my partner is feeling about me: Sometimes	It is important to know how my partner is feeling about me: Often	It is important to know how my partner is feeling about me: Always

15. Over the past 4 weeks, how often did you feel sexual desire or interest?

• Almost never or never
• Rarely
• Some times (about half of the time)
• Often
• Almost always or always

16. Over the last year, how often have you had difficulty reaching orgasm (WITH a partner present)?

• Almost never or never
• Rarely
• Some times (about half of the time)
• Often
• Almost always
• Always - I have never had an orgasm

17. Over the last year, how often do you have difficulty getting enough lubrication (women) or maintaining an erection (men) before or during sex?

• Almost never or never
• Rarely
• Some times (about half of the time)
• Often
• Almost always or always

18. Imagine you are having sex with a partner and you are feeling close to orgasm.
Based on everything you know about your sexuality, describe what will bring you over the edge to orgasm.  *This question is required.(If you have never had an orgasm, please respond to "Never Effective" for all answers)

Space Cell	Never effective	Rarely effective	Occasionally effective	Often effective	Always effective
Moaning, screaming or expressing my pleasure	Moaning, screaming or expressing my pleasure: Never effective	Moaning, screaming or expressing my pleasure: Rarely effective	Moaning, screaming or expressing my pleasure: Occasionally effective	Moaning, screaming or expressing my pleasure: Often effective	Moaning, screaming or expressing my pleasure: Always effective
Holding tighter, pulling closer or pushing into my lover	Holding tighter, pulling closer or pushing into my lover: Never effective	Holding tighter, pulling closer or pushing into my lover: Rarely effective	Holding tighter, pulling closer or pushing into my lover: Occasionally effective	Holding tighter, pulling closer or pushing into my lover: Often effective	Holding tighter, pulling closer or pushing into my lover: Always effective
Looking at or thinking about my lover's body (or part)	Looking at or thinking about my lover's body (or part): Never effective	Looking at or thinking about my lover's body (or part): Rarely effective	Looking at or thinking about my lover's body (or part): Occasionally effective	Looking at or thinking about my lover's body (or part): Often effective	Looking at or thinking about my lover's body (or part): Always effective
Focusing on how sexy I look or feel	Focusing on how sexy I look or feel: Never effective	Focusing on how sexy I look or feel: Rarely effective	Focusing on how sexy I look or feel: Occasionally effective	Focusing on how sexy I look or feel: Often effective	Focusing on how sexy I look or feel: Always effective
Focusing on what my lover and I are sharing together	Focusing on what my lover and I are sharing together: Never effective	Focusing on what my lover and I are sharing together: Rarely effective	Focusing on what my lover and I are sharing together: Occasionally effective	Focusing on what my lover and I are sharing together: Often effective	Focusing on what my lover and I are sharing together: Always effective
Mentally picturing something that turns me on -- fantasizing	Mentally picturing something that turns me on -- fantasizing : Never effective	Mentally picturing something that turns me on -- fantasizing : Rarely effective	Mentally picturing something that turns me on -- fantasizing : Occasionally effective	Mentally picturing something that turns me on -- fantasizing : Often effective	Mentally picturing something that turns me on -- fantasizing : Always effective
Making eye-contact with my lover	Making eye-contact with my lover: Never effective	Making eye-contact with my lover: Rarely effective	Making eye-contact with my lover: Occasionally effective	Making eye-contact with my lover: Often effective	Making eye-contact with my lover: Always effective
Slowing down	Slowing down: Never effective	Slowing down: Rarely effective	Slowing down: Occasionally effective	Slowing down: Often effective	Slowing down: Always effective
Dominating my lover, directing them	Dominating my lover, directing them : Never effective	Dominating my lover, directing them : Rarely effective	Dominating my lover, directing them : Occasionally effective	Dominating my lover, directing them : Often effective	Dominating my lover, directing them : Always effective
Submitting or surrendering to my lover	Submitting or surrendering to my lover: Never effective	Submitting or surrendering to my lover: Rarely effective	Submitting or surrendering to my lover: Occasionally effective	Submitting or surrendering to my lover: Often effective	Submitting or surrendering to my lover: Always effective
Being held down or being restrained	Being held down or being restrained: Never effective	Being held down or being restrained: Rarely effective	Being held down or being restrained: Occasionally effective	Being held down or being restrained: Often effective	Being held down or being restrained: Always effective
Holding down or restraining	Holding down or restraining: Never effective	Holding down or restraining: Rarely effective	Holding down or restraining: Occasionally effective	Holding down or restraining: Often effective	Holding down or restraining: Always effective
Doing something "new" that we don't normally do	Doing something "new" that we don't normally do : Never effective	Doing something "new" that we don't normally do : Rarely effective	Doing something "new" that we don't normally do : Occasionally effective	Doing something "new" that we don't normally do : Often effective	Doing something "new" that we don't normally do : Always effective
Slapping, choking or hitting (in play)	Slapping, choking or hitting (in play): Never effective	Slapping, choking or hitting (in play): Rarely effective	Slapping, choking or hitting (in play): Occasionally effective	Slapping, choking or hitting (in play): Often effective	Slapping, choking or hitting (in play): Always effective
Imagining my or my lover changes genders	Imagining my or my lover changes genders: Never effective	Imagining my or my lover changes genders: Rarely effective	Imagining my or my lover changes genders: Occasionally effective	Imagining my or my lover changes genders: Often effective	Imagining my or my lover changes genders: Always effective
Stopping thinking, letting my mind going blank	Stopping thinking, letting my mind going blank: Never effective	Stopping thinking, letting my mind going blank: Rarely effective	Stopping thinking, letting my mind going blank: Occasionally effective	Stopping thinking, letting my mind going blank: Often effective	Stopping thinking, letting my mind going blank: Always effective
Thinking about how well my lover treats me or how committed they are	Thinking about how well my lover treats me or how committed they are: Never effective	Thinking about how well my lover treats me or how committed they are: Rarely effective	Thinking about how well my lover treats me or how committed they are: Occasionally effective	Thinking about how well my lover treats me or how committed they are: Often effective	Thinking about how well my lover treats me or how committed they are: Always effective
Kissing more often or more deeply	Kissing more often or more deeply: Never effective	Kissing more often or more deeply: Rarely effective	Kissing more often or more deeply: Occasionally effective	Kissing more often or more deeply: Often effective	Kissing more often or more deeply: Always effective
Listening to my lover moan, scream or express their pleasure	Listening to my lover moan, scream or express their pleasure: Never effective	Listening to my lover moan, scream or express their pleasure: Rarely effective	Listening to my lover moan, scream or express their pleasure: Occasionally effective	Listening to my lover moan, scream or express their pleasure: Often effective	Listening to my lover moan, scream or express their pleasure: Always effective
Talking dirty	Talking dirty: Never effective	Talking dirty: Rarely effective	Talking dirty: Occasionally effective	Talking dirty: Often effective	Talking dirty: Always effective
Focusing on my sensation or pleasure	Focusing on my sensation or pleasure: Never effective	Focusing on my sensation or pleasure: Rarely effective	Focusing on my sensation or pleasure: Occasionally effective	Focusing on my sensation or pleasure: Often effective	Focusing on my sensation or pleasure: Always effective
Focusing on how close (emotionally) I feel to my lover	Focusing on how close (emotionally) I feel to my lover: Never effective	Focusing on how close (emotionally) I feel to my lover: Rarely effective	Focusing on how close (emotionally) I feel to my lover: Occasionally effective	Focusing on how close (emotionally) I feel to my lover: Often effective	Focusing on how close (emotionally) I feel to my lover: Always effective
Caressing, touching or feeling skin-on-skin	Caressing, touching or feeling skin-on-skin: Never effective	Caressing, touching or feeling skin-on-skin: Rarely effective	Caressing, touching or feeling skin-on-skin: Occasionally effective	Caressing, touching or feeling skin-on-skin: Often effective	Caressing, touching or feeling skin-on-skin: Always effective
Telling my lover how much I love or care, or hearing them tell me	Telling my lover how much I love or care, or hearing them tell me: Never effective	Telling my lover how much I love or care, or hearing them tell me: Rarely effective	Telling my lover how much I love or care, or hearing them tell me: Occasionally effective	Telling my lover how much I love or care, or hearing them tell me: Often effective	Telling my lover how much I love or care, or hearing them tell me: Always effective
Relaxing or tensing my muscles	Relaxing or tensing my muscles: Never effective	Relaxing or tensing my muscles: Rarely effective	Relaxing or tensing my muscles: Occasionally effective	Relaxing or tensing my muscles: Often effective	Relaxing or tensing my muscles: Always effective
"Letting go" or opening up	"Letting go" or opening up : Never effective	"Letting go" or opening up : Rarely effective	"Letting go" or opening up : Occasionally effective	"Letting go" or opening up : Often effective	"Letting go" or opening up : Always effective
Watching or thinking about my lover experiencing pleasure or orgasm	Watching or thinking about my lover experiencing pleasure or orgasm: Never effective	Watching or thinking about my lover experiencing pleasure or orgasm: Rarely effective	Watching or thinking about my lover experiencing pleasure or orgasm: Occasionally effective	Watching or thinking about my lover experiencing pleasure or orgasm: Often effective	Watching or thinking about my lover experiencing pleasure or orgasm: Always effective
Being encouraged to have pleasure or to orgasm	Being encouraged to have pleasure or to orgasm: Never effective	Being encouraged to have pleasure or to orgasm: Rarely effective	Being encouraged to have pleasure or to orgasm: Occasionally effective	Being encouraged to have pleasure or to orgasm: Often effective	Being encouraged to have pleasure or to orgasm: Always effective
Imagining myself having an orgasm or telling my partner I am about to orgasm	Imagining myself having an orgasm or telling my partner I am about to orgasm: Never effective	Imagining myself having an orgasm or telling my partner I am about to orgasm: Rarely effective	Imagining myself having an orgasm or telling my partner I am about to orgasm: Occasionally effective	Imagining myself having an orgasm or telling my partner I am about to orgasm: Often effective	Imagining myself having an orgasm or telling my partner I am about to orgasm: Always effective
Envisioning or watching what we are doing	Envisioning or watching what we are doing : Never effective	Envisioning or watching what we are doing : Rarely effective	Envisioning or watching what we are doing : Occasionally effective	Envisioning or watching what we are doing : Often effective	Envisioning or watching what we are doing : Always effective
Keep going, doing the same thing we are doing	Keep going, doing the same thing we are doing: Never effective	Keep going, doing the same thing we are doing: Rarely effective	Keep going, doing the same thing we are doing: Occasionally effective	Keep going, doing the same thing we are doing: Often effective	Keep going, doing the same thing we are doing: Always effective

20. Overall, how satisfactory or unsatisfactory is your present sex life?

• Extremely unsatisfactory
• Somewhat unsatisfactory
• Neither satisfactory or unsatisfactory
• Somewhat satisfactory
• Extremely satisfactory

21. What turns me on to get sex started with my current partner is:

• Very consistent. What turns me on today is the the same as what turned me on years ago.
• Mostly consistent. What turns me on today is similar to what turned me on years ago.
• Somewhat consistent. What turns me on today is similar as years ago (1/2 the time).
• Mostly inconsistent. What turns me on today is rarely the same as years ago.
• Very inconsistent. What turns me on today is almost never the same as years ago.
• Not applicable. I do not have a current partner.

22. What turns me on to get sex started with previous partner(s) is:

• Very consistent. Is the same as what turns me on with my current partner.
• Mostly consistent. Is the same as what turns me on with my current partner.
• Somewhat consistent. Is the same as with my current partner (1/2 the time).
• Mostly inconsistent. Is rarely the same as what turns me on with my current partner.
• Very inconsistent. Is never the same as what turns me on with my current partner.
• Not applicable (I have not had previous partners to compare)

23. What turns me on with a partner(s) compared with my preferred fantasy (porn/erotica) is:

• Very consistent. Is always the same as what turns me on in my preferred fantasy/porn.
• Mostly consistent. Is often the same as what turns me on in my preferred fantasy/porn.
• Somewhat consistent. Is occasionally the same as my preferred fantasy/porn (1/2 the time).
• Mostly inconsistent. Is rarely the same as my preferred fantasy/porn.
• Very inconsistent. Is never the same as my preferred fantasy/porn.
• Not applicable (I have not had any partners)

24. Recall to the best of your ability the most recent orgasm you experienced during sex with a partner. This would include any sexual activity with your partner in which you had an orgasm while your partner was present.

To the best of your memory, how did you have this orgasm with your partner?

• through intercourse (vaginal, anal, other)
• through oral stimulation from your partner
• through manual stimulation from your partner
• through manual stimulation from myself
• Other (describe briefly, eg. clitoral stimulation and vaginal intercourse at same time, vibrator, etc.) Please enter an 'other' value for this selection.
• I have never had an orgasm with my partner present

25. Rate each word as to how well that word describes your most recent orgasm experience through sex with a partner.Below is a list of words that might be used to describe the experience of orgasm. Different people may use different words to describe their personal experience, and so there is no "right" answer. * If you have never had an orgasm in this way please rate the words according to how you think orgasm experience through sex with a partner would feel.

Space Cell	Does Not Describe It At All 0	1	2	3	4	Describes It Perfectly 5
spurting	spurting: Does Not Describe It At All 0	spurting: 1	spurting: 2	spurting: 3	spurting: 4	spurting: Describes It Perfectly 5
flowing	flowing: Does Not Describe It At All 0	flowing: 1	flowing: 2	flowing: 3	flowing: 4	flowing: Describes It Perfectly 5
loving	loving: Does Not Describe It At All 0	loving: 1	loving: 2	loving: 3	loving: 4	loving: Describes It Perfectly 5
building	building: Does Not Describe It At All 0	building: 1	building: 2	building: 3	building: 4	building: Describes It Perfectly 5
euphoric	euphoric: Does Not Describe It At All 0	euphoric: 1	euphoric: 2	euphoric: 3	euphoric: 4	euphoric: Describes It Perfectly 5
shuddering	shuddering: Does Not Describe It At All 0	shuddering: 1	shuddering: 2	shuddering: 3	shuddering: 4	shuddering: Describes It Perfectly 5
close	close: Does Not Describe It At All 0	close: 1	close: 2	close: 3	close: 4	close: Describes It Perfectly 5
relaxing	relaxing: Does Not Describe It At All 0	relaxing: 1	relaxing: 2	relaxing: 3	relaxing: 4	relaxing: Describes It Perfectly 5
throbbing	throbbing: Does Not Describe It At All 0	throbbing: 1	throbbing: 2	throbbing: 3	throbbing: 4	throbbing: Describes It Perfectly 5
pleasurable	pleasurable: Does Not Describe It At All 0	pleasurable: 1	pleasurable: 2	pleasurable: 3	pleasurable: 4	pleasurable: Describes It Perfectly 5

26. Would you be interested in taking a follow-up questionnaire? The benefits include: Being the first to receive a digital copy of the published results to see where you fit with others, as well as, furthering our understanding of eroticism.  (This would involve a one-time invitation to fill out a similar (shorter) survey in approximately 1 month)
 

• Yes
• No
• Maybe (I'll let you know when you contact me)