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Relationships - Personal Styles of Attachment

Styles of Connection in Relationships

Who is it who has asked you to fill out this form? - choose one
For the following questions choose "true" or "false."
I often worry that my partner will stop loving me.
I find it easy to be affectionate with my partner.
I fear that once someone gets to know me s/he won't like who I am.
I find that I bounce back quickly after a breakup. It's weird how I can just put someone out of my mind.
When I am not involved in a relationship I feel anxious and incomplete.
I find it difficult to emotionally support my partner when s/he is feeling down.
When my partner is away I am afraid that s/he might become interested in someone else.
I feel comfortable depending on romantic partners.
My independence is more important to me than my relationships.
I prefer not to share my innermost feelings with my partner.
When I show my partner how I feel I am afraid s/he will not feel the same about me.
I am generally satisfied with my romantic relationships.
I don't feel the need to act out much in my romantic relationships.
I think about my relationships a lot.
I find it difficult to depend on romantic partners.
I tend to get very quickly attached to a romantic partner.
I have little difficulty expressing my needs and wants to my partner.
I sometimes feel angry or annoyed with my partner without knowing why.
I am very sensitive to my partner's moods.
I believe most people are essentially honest and dependable.
I prefer casual sex with uncommitted partners to intimate sex with one partner.
I am comfortable sharing my personal thoughts and feelings with my partner.
I worry that if my partner leaves me I might never find someone else.
It makes me nervous when my partner gets too close.
During a conflict I tend to impulsively say or do things I later regret, rather than to be able to reason things out.
An argument with a partner doesn't usually cause me to question my whole relationship.
My partners often want me to be more intimate than I feel comfortable being.
I worry that I am not attractive enough.
Sometimes people see me as boring because I create little drama in relationships.
I miss my partner when we are apart, but then when we are together I feel the need to escape.
When I disagree with someone I feel comfortable expressing my opinions.
I hate feeling that other people depend on me.
If I notice that someone I am interested in is checking out other people, I don't let it faze me. I might feel a pang of jealousy but it is fleeting.
If I notice that someone I am interested in is checking out other people, I am relieved. It means s/he is not looking to make things exclusive.
If I notice that someone I am interested in is checking out other people, it makes me depressed.
If someone I have been dating begins to act cold and distant, I may wonder what's happened, but I'll know it probably isn't about me.
If someone I have been dating begins to act cold and distant, I'll probably be indifferent. I may even be relieved.
If someone I have been dating begins to act cold and distant, I'll worry that I have probably done something wrong.
If my partner was to break up with me, I'd try my best to show her/him what s/he has been missing (a little jealousy can't hurt).
If someone I'd been dating for several months tells me s/he wants to stop seeing me, I'd feel hurt at first but I would get over it.
Sometimes when I get what I want in a relationship, I am not sure what I want anymore.
I won't have much of a problem staying in touch with my ex (strictly platonic) -- after all we have a lot in common.