SYL Good Friend Bad Friend

1. Initiate contact between the two of you (by calling, e-mailing, dropping by for a visit, sending an invitation to an event, etc.).

I do this for my friend:

Never	Rarely	Sometimes	Often	Always
Never	Rarely	Sometimes	Often	Always

My friend does this for me:

Never	Rarely	Sometimes	Often	Always
Never	Rarely	Sometimes	Often	Always

2. Create a supportive atmosphere, making a point of being cheerful, encouraging, and caring enough to make the other person feel good.

I do this for my friend:

Never	Rarely	Sometimes	Often	Always
Never	Rarely	Sometimes	Often	Always

My friend does this for me:

Never	Rarely	Sometimes	Often	Always
Never	Rarely	Sometimes	Often	Always

3. Prepare a special event (a dinner, birthday party, fun activity) for both of you to do together.

I do this for my friend:

Never	Rarely	Sometimes	Often	Always
Never	Rarely	Sometimes	Often	Always

My friend does this for me:

Never	Rarely	Sometimes	Often	Always
Never	Rarely	Sometimes	Often	Always

4. Stand up for the friend with other people; defend or support her when people aren't treating her well.

I do this for my friend:

Never	Rarely	Sometimes	Often	Always
Never	Rarely	Sometimes	Often	Always

My friend does this for me:

Never	Rarely	Sometimes	Often	Always
Never	Rarely	Sometimes	Often	Always

5. Focus on the other person's problems; offer empathy, understanding, kindness, comfort, and verbal reassurance.

I do this for my friend:

Never	Rarely	Sometimes	Often	Always
Never	Rarely	Sometimes	Often	Always

My friend does this for me:

Never	Rarely	Sometimes	Often	Always
Never	Rarely	Sometimes	Often	Always

6. Physically help out with the other person's life: show up to take care of things when the other is ill; take care of pets, plants, children while friend is out of town.

I do this for my friend:

Never	Rarely	Sometimes	Often	Always
Never	Rarely	Sometimes	Often	Always

My friend does this for me:

Never	Rarely	Sometimes	Often	Always
Never	Rarely	Sometimes	Often	Always

7. Give small (or large) presents that will mean a lot to the other person. Remember birthdays and other occasions that are personally significant to that person.

I do this for my friend:

Never	Rarely	Sometimes	Often	Always
Never	Rarely	Sometimes	Often	Always

My friend does this for me:

Never	Rarely	Sometimes	Often	Always
Never	Rarely	Sometimes	Often	Always

8. Compliment the other person's looks, intelligence, talent, importance, fashion sense, magnanimity, and other sterling qualities.

I do this for my friend:

Never	Rarely	Sometimes	Often	Always
Never	Rarely	Sometimes	Often	Always

My friend does this for me:

Never	Rarely	Sometimes	Often	Always
Never	Rarely	Sometimes	Often	Always

9. Help the other person feel better after unpleasant interactions with others (issues at the office, family-of-origin drama, and above all, the processing of romantic relationship dynamics).

I do this for my friend:

Never	Rarely	Sometimes	Often	Always
Never	Rarely	Sometimes	Often	Always

My friend does this for me:

Never	Rarely	Sometimes	Often	Always
Never	Rarely	Sometimes	Often	Always

10. Make a point of being punctual for appointments, keeping promises no matter what, and remembering and honoring all commitments.

I do this for my friend:

Never	Rarely	Sometimes	Often	Always
Never	Rarely	Sometimes	Often	Always

My friend does this for me:

Never	Rarely	Sometimes	Often	Always
Never	Rarely	Sometimes	Often	Always