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Sexual Initiation Scale of Arousal

Fill out this short survey and receive your Sexual Initiation Style immediately!

This survey is anonymous and confidential (see our privacy statement) and should take approximately 8-12 minutes to complete. The questionnaire has approximately 13 questions that cover your sexual initiation preferences and interests.  Feel free to check it out, knowing that at any point you can discontinue without consequence. If you have any questions about it or comments about it please contact Dr. Zebroff at

You must be 18 to participate. By completing the survey you are agreeing to participate in furthering our understanding of human sexuality.

* This test works best on a desktop, laptop or tablet. 

This question requires a valid email address.
2. My gender is: *This question is required.
3. My sexual orientation is:
4. What is your age?
5. The race or ethnicity I identify with is:
6. My relationship status is: *This question is required.
I would rate the general satisfaction of my relationship as:
7. Compared to other people of your age and gender, how would you rate your desire to behave sexually with a partner?
(0 = Much less desire  --- 8= Much more desire)
8. What is your level of sexual desire. By desire, we mean interest in or a wish for sexual activity.
(0 = No desire  ------------ 8= Strong desire)
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When you are in a romantic situation (such as a candle lit dinner, a walk on the beach, etc.), how strong is your sexual desire?
How strong is your desire to engage in sexual activity with a partner?
How strong is your desire to engage in sexual behavior by yourself?
9. Overall, how satisfactory or unsatisfactory is your present sex life?
10. Think back to a peak sexual experience. The factor that stands out as the most highly arousing for me was:  The delight in my sexuality comes from. *This question is required.Tip: Peak experiences are those that left an impression on you. They can involve a moment of awe or euphoria. Or can be described as the best or favorite experience.
In your current relationship, who initiates sex most often?
The way(s) my partner currently initiates sex is:
11. How would you prefer your partner approach you for sex? I get most turned-on if my partner: *This question is required.Think about how you start getting aroused --- transitioning from your day-to-day reality toward your erotic-reality. How would you like your partner to approach you. If you do not have a partner, imagine the best scenario for you.
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Undresses for me
Gives me cuddles (non-sexual hugs or affection)
Touches or rubs my genitals
'Takes charge' of the situation
Approaches me from behind
Wears (or doesn't wear) certain articles of clothing
Pushes me against a wall or bed
Undresses me
Teases me by making me wait (anticipate)
Engages me in an intellectual discussion
Tells me how sexy I am or how much they desire me
Gives me gentle kisses
Does something genuinely caring or thoughtful
Strokes my chest or plays with my nipples
Sends me a sexy message
Talks dirty to me
Makes prolonged eye-contact with me
Tells me the things he/she wants to do to me
Is humorous or playful
Rubs or presses themselves against me (without saying anything)
Gives me deep (tongue), passionate kisses
Lavishes me with their attention
Suggests we take a "nap" together
Caresses all parts of my body (including non-sexual parts)
Gives me a massage
Sits (or lies) closer to me than usual
Sets up a room with sensual ambiance
Tells me how much he/she loves me
'Asks' me what they should do to me
Is rough or forceful
Surprises me, or is spontaneous
'Tells' me directly that they want to have sex
Kisses or caresses my neck
Is urgent or passionate
Nibbles on or plays with my ear
Engages in an emotional or romantic conversation
Teases me with seductive language or gestures
Shows me or tells me how aroused they are
Starts slow
Touches my back or buttocks
Invites me or leads me into the bedroom
Wrestles or tickles me
Invites me to have a bath or shower
Wakes me up with kisses or sexual touch
Demands that they have me...immediately
Teases me that I have been “bad” or “naughty”
Engages me in planning out a sexual role-play
Looks at me with desire
Touches me more than usual (is “handsy”)
Spends quality time or connects intimately throughout the day.
Grabs me or pulls me into them with intention
Clears time and space to enjoy each other
Arranges a romantic dinner/event
Describes a particular new sex act we will imagine/do together
Addresses other concerns/worries I might have
Sends me or shows me sexy pics
Sets up a future time for sex
Gives me a gift
Talks about my favorite taboo or novel sex act.
Makes me laugh or laughs easily
Offers themself to me, encouraging me to "take charge"
Acts genuinely interested in what I have to say
Takes a provocative pose or shows more skin
Hints or jokes about sex
Act submissive or respond to my commands (in play)
Watches porn with me
12. Estimate how often the items below may have contributed to your initiating sex with your partner:(Please refer to the above rating scale when answering the following items as they pertain to your relationship)
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Your partner is unexpectedly affectionate
You feel loved by your partner
You feel a wave of love for your partner
Your partner's body language suggests self-confidence
Your partner shares an interesting story
Partner shares some of the day's events
13. Assume you are interested in having sex with your partner. Estimate how often you try any of the following:(Please refer to the above rating scale when answering the following items as they pertain to your relationship)
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Prolong a touch
Press against your partner
Let your hands wander over your partner’s body
Groom yourself in ways you know your partner finds attractive
Prepare a special meal
Set up a romantic ambiance
14. Would you be interested in taking a follow-up (much shorter) questionnaire? The benefits include: Being the first to receive a digital copy of the published results to see where you fit with others, as well as, furthering our understanding of eroticism.  (This would involve a one-time invitation to fill out a similar, short survey in approximately 1 month)