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Turn-on Initiation Preference

Fill out this short survey and receive your Sexual Initiation Style immediately!

This survey is anonymous and confidential (see our privacy statement) and should take approximately 8-12 minutes to complete. The questionnaire has approximately 29 questions that cover your sexual initiation preferences and interests.  Feel free to check it out, knowing that at any point you can discontinue without consequence. If you have any questions about it or comments about it please contact Dr. Zebroff at info@artofconnection.org

You must be 18 to participate. By completing the survey you are agreeing to participate in furthering our understanding of human sexuality.


* This test works best on a desktop, laptop or tablet.
1. I define as:
2. My sexual orientation is:
3. The type of genitals I own is: *This question is required.
5. My relationship status is: *This question is required.
I have been in my relationship for:
I would rate the general satisfaction of my relationship as:
6. Overall, how satisfactory or unsatisfactory is your present sex life?
Overall, how satisfactory or unsatisfactory do you think your lover would rate your present sex life?
Who initiates sex in your relationship?
The way(s) my partner currently initiates sex is:
7. I get the most turned-on when:
8. Think back to the last time you initiated sex with a lover. How did your lover respond to your advances?
How frequently does your lover respond with the following responses to your sexual advances?
Space Cell Almost never or neverRarelyAbout 1/2 timeFrequentlyAlmost always or always
they respond enthusiastically
they go along with my request in a neutral way
they make excuses for why they can't have sex
they get angry, defensive or pick a fight
they don't respond at all
9. How would you prefer a lover approach you for sex? I get most turned-on if my lover: *This question is required.Think about how you start getting aroused --- transitioning from your day-to-day reality toward your erotic-reality. How would you like your partner to approach you. If you do not have a partner, imagine the best scenario for you.
Space Cell Not sexyA little sexySomewhat sexyVery sexyExtremely sexy
'Takes charge' of the situation
Surprises me or approaches me from behind
Pushes me against a wall or bed
Rubs or presses themselves against me (without saying anything)
Gives me deep (tongue), passionate kisses
Caresses all parts of my body (including non-sexual parts)
Is rough or forceful (in play)
Kisses or caresses my neck
Is urgent or passionate
Touches me more than usual (is “handsy”)
Spends quality time or connects intimately throughout the day
Arranges a romantic dinner/event
Describes a particular new sex act we will imagine/do together
Addresses other concerns/worries I might have
Sends me or shows me sexy pics
Talks about my favorite taboo or novel sex act
Makes me laugh or laughs easily
Offers themself to me, encouraging me to "take charge"
Acts genuinely interested in what I have to say
Takes a provocative pose or shows more skin
I would like to be the one to initiate sex
11. When you have sexual intercourse with your current (or most recent) lover, how often do you reach orgasm (climax)?(Penis-Vagina intercourse: the type of intercourse that occurs while the man’s penis is in the woman’s vagina)
12. When you have sexual intercourse with your current (or most recent) lover, how often does your lover reach orgasm (climax)?(Penis-vagina intercourse: the type of intercourse that occurs while the man’s penis is in the woman’s vagina)
13. Overall, which is your most reliable (frequent) way for you to have an orgasm with a lover?This would include any sexual activity with your lover in which you had an orgasm while your lover was present. If you are not currently in a relationship at the moment, think of your most recent or longest term lover. 
 
Space Cell NeverRarelyabout 1/2 the timeFrequentlyAlways
through manual stimulation (my own hand)
through manual stimulation (from a lover)
through oral stimulation (from a lover)
through a sex toy, like a vibrator
through intercourse (penis-vagina) alone, without added stimulation
through intercourse (penis-vagina) at the same time as other stimulation (clitoris or testicles).
through anal stimulation (oral, manual, toy or intercourse)
14. Think back to a time when you were having difficulty reaching orgasm in the presence of a lover. What was your most common response?
Space Cell Never or almost neverRarelySometimes (about 1/2 of the time)FrequentlyAlways or almost always
I asked or gestured for my lover to continue to stimulate me (orally or manually)
I asked or gestured for my lover to continue intercourse (or have intercourse again)
I indicated I wanted to stimulate myself
I used a vibrator or other toy
I stopped sexual activity
I faked an orgasm
Think of the last few times you had sexual intercourse (penis-vagina), which of the following best describes the level of intensity of sensation you felt in your vagina (without clitoral stimulation) ?(While intensity of sensation will vary throughout intercourse, please choose one of the following that represents your overall experience, which was the predominant level of intensity you felt)
Think of the last few times you had sexual intercourse (penis-vagina), which of the following best describes the level of intensity of sensation you felt from your penis?(While intensity of sensation will vary throughout intercourse, please choose one of the following that best represents your overall experience, which was the predominant level of intensity you felt)
15. What level of intensity of sensation do you believe a woman feels in her vagina only (without direct clitoral stimulation) compared to what a man feels in his penis during intercourse (penis-vagina)? *This question is required.
Based on your own experience of what you have heard or seen, what do you imagine the difference in intensity of feeling is between a penis compared with a vagina during intercourse with a partner.
Do you consider the size of your own penis OR that of your partner’s to be...
Are you satisfied with the size of your own penis OR that of your partner’s?
17. On average, how often have you watched/read sexually explicit materials during the last 12 months?
18. The things that turn me on the most to get sex started with my current lover are:
19. The things that turn me on to get sex started with previous lover(s) are:
20. The things that turn me on to get sex started  in isolation (during CoVid) are:
21. Do you ever feel like you are missing out on the "good sex" everyone else seems to be having?
 
22. How has the frequency of sexual initiation changed in the time of social isolation (CoVid-19): (initiated by either of you or your lover)
(compared with non-social isolation times)